Girl Troubles

[fedfan]

I think its really sound that a 21yr old bloke at Uni is so concerned about a female he isn't sleeping with lol. She should count herself lucky to have a mate like you, I dont think you need to go out of your way to avoid her, just let her come to you and consider any invitation she offers.

[VillaJ100]

thanks man. had a little chat with her earlier, she was saying how she was a bit wierd because her bf has a job which is with his ex girlfriend. Then spoke about general shit and then she asked me if i wanted to go the gym tomorrow, which i would like to but said "sorry, have plans".

hehe even i'm surprised i put this on here, im usually very private. just seemed like a good place to ask for advice.

[fedfan]

Nice one! Suppose it's easier to vent here where nobody knows you or cam judge you.

[synesthesia70]

I mean hell its always kind of iffy when a girl is your best friend because there is always that "i could bang her" factor. But yeah it sounds like your comfortable with just being friends and you are just concern about her and miss hanging out with her and there is nothing wrong with that. If she really is a friend she would understand. So i suggest maybe putting it all in a letter/email and let her know how you feel and just get it off your chest. And at least you'd can have some peace of mind and move on from there.

Yeah! ITST is more than just for tennis fun. We're one big family. I love it! haha

[VillaJ100]

haha. we should plan a meet up. kinda hard though as the world is a big place lol. She mentioned that she's "taking it slow" with her new bf, yet they are goin to london for the week on tuesday lol. Shes starting to work for him too and travelling up and down the UK, he has a business that consists of those annoying people in night clubs selling shots in a test tube lol so it seems quite serious.

Again thats for all the input

[Banthasmaker]

You must be somewhat attracted to her...I mean, that's what it sounds like to me, even though you've said the opposite.

You're just going to have to show her some tough love. Don't answer her calls, don't do any favors for her, don't be there for her when she needs somebody to talk to..it's the only thing girls respond to, sadly. They (she) will walk all over you for the rest of your life, if you let them (her). She obviously is going through some kind of big change with her whole 'persona' or whatever- girl sounds like a handful and like almost all women, more trouble than she's even worth!

good tactic

Sadly, I quite agree with it, but to me if one day she needs you, and make efforts to make you feel it, it's the sign that it's still a hopeable redemption. Don't do too much, it'll get her further, but do just the minimum you feel you have to do, and show her that you can be intransigent when she mades mistakes.
I'm 100% with you, keep standing!